Too shy online dating
“When I get nervous,” says a young woman named Rebecca, “I shut down.I go blank.” She sits in a circle of 20 in a dance studio on the west side of Manhattan.Everyone takes turns introducing himself, explaining what brought him out on a Saturday evening to a dating coach’s class for the socially anxious.Rebecca is a college student who is “obsessed” with the video game .She has long wavy hair and a sweet face (although she tells me later that when she gets nervous, her eyebrows pull together of their own accord and make her look angry).Despite being one of the youngest and one of the few women in the group, Rebecca quickly establishes herself among the most candid.
SAD first appeared in the Still, the Food and Drug Administration approved the drug company Glaxo Smith Kline to market Paxil as the antidote (“Imagine being allergic to people,” the ad says), and soon, both Paxil prescriptions and SAD diagnoses were on the rise.Today, the National Institute of Mental Health reports that SAD afflicts approximately 15 million American adults. If someone’s shyness “has caused impairment in his life,” then it’s a disorder, says Barrie Rosen, a clinical psychologist in Manhattan.* Picture the person who can’t ask for directions without succumbing to a panic attack, who sweats profusely upon entering a grocery store, never mind a party.Picture, in extreme cases, years of isolation leading to depression, substance abuse, and suicide.Picture someone so afraid of social interaction he can’t hold a job or make friends. That’s where 32-year-old dating coach Chris Luna comes in.Luna looks less like a dating coach than like a movie star playing the role of a dating coach.
Tonight he wears a newsboy cap and a fitted black V-neck T-shirt that shows off his jacked arms.