Ready to marry dating
Your answer probably hangs on why you think you (or anyone else) should date in the first place.Anyone can see that the costs are often high — crushing breakups, sexual sin, shocking betrayal, sudden rejection, devastating heartbreak — the pain of love that never walked the aisle.So why do so many of us still dive so quickly into dating?Well, in part, because Satan masks the risks so well (Revelation 12:9).He casts romance as a qualification for the good life, and projects anything else as empty, lonely, and purposeless by comparison.He capitalizes on our desires and convinces us we must “love” in order to truly live, that all the highest pleasures and fullest experiences are found in a relationship with a boyfriend or girlfriend (or husband or wife).
From far too young, I was looking for affection, safety, and intimacy from girls instead of from God. My teenage years were one long string of relationships that were too serious for our age, went on too long, and therefore, ended too painfully. And the devil sat front-and-center, loving every minute of my early dating history.The spiritual war for our hearts is real, and the stakes are high, so it’s critical to ask why we think we should date in the first place.Why did I have a girlfriend when I was twelve (and thirteen, and fourteen, and even eighteen)?For many of us, we just want to be happy, to belong, to be valued.We imagine our deepest needs being met in the intimacy of being with a special young man or woman.
We all want our hearts to soar for someone or something. Many of us date because we’re trying to fill those needs in love.