Persian male views on dating
I am British and am interested in Persian culture / language and Iran itself.
My problem is that time and again I meet men who think Oh, she’s easy because she is ‘English’ and they then revert back to marrying Persian girls. I hope that many members of our community write in and share their thoughts as well, and I hope that some of them serve to provide evidence contrary to your assumptions.
Obviously internet dating is a minefield of predatory men who are only after one thing. Are we non Persian girls just for dating or bedding? I am, of course, not saying that your assumptions are incorrect.
I would be interested in your thoughts as I am getting quite disheartened at the attitudes. I think, very unfortunately, that there are some cultural stereotypes (in both directions! So good, let’s get these all out in the open so that we can talk about them.
I, too, have heard many times from Iranian men (or men from any of the middle-eastern cultures for that matter) that they are happy to date American or non-Iranian women, but that they would never marry one.
I believe that some of this is related to the perception that they will more likely find a virgin in the more conservative and traditional of the two cultures (the middle-eastern one), but that it also relates to cultural similarities.
I think that there is this perception perpetuated by parents and taught to their children generation after generation – that is based more on ideals than on reality.The times are changing in ALL cultures and the younger generations across the world are probably becoming more alike than they ever were in the past because of technology, the internet, ease of travel, and so forth.Furthermore, there are just certain human factors that no culture can overcome.Physiologically, in adolescence we are walking sex hormones, bubbling over and barely in control.To all my more “mature” readers…come on now…think back…you can remember being exactly like that too, even if you were forced to repress these feelings and NOT act on them.
Whether or not we establish barriers (social, cultural, familial), teenagers will be teenagers and they will do what they want to do, often without our knowledge.